care for sister

agar mari behen ik independent larki ha, aur wo mujh par bojh nahi dalna chahti, aur us k bawajood agar usay kisi ki zarorat ha, to chahy wo mujhy bulaey chahay na bulaye, chahy mujhy fone par na bataey chahey mujhy sms par na bataey k usay mari zarorat ha. aur mujhy pata chal jata ha ksi b resource sa k mare behen ko mari zarorat ha , to me apne behen sa contact kar k us ki help karu ge, us k ghar ja kar, ofice ja kar, sms par, email par.

agar wo mujhy mana karti ha us ki zarorat pori karny sa to us me koi harj sharam dushmani ya ghusay ki bat nahi ha. ku k me b literate hu wo b literate, me b independent hu wo b independent ha, me us ki care karti hu k us k kandho ka bojh na barhaou wo meri care karti ha k wo mary kandho ka bojh na barhey.

This is not carelessness this is called care. and I love my sisters.

care for brother

agar mujhy mary bhai ki care ha aur usay kisi ki zarorat ha, to chahy wo mujhy bulaey chahay na bulaye, chahy mujhy fone par na bataey chahey mujhy sms par na bataey k usay mari zarorat ha. aur mujhy pata chal jata ha ksi b resource sa k mary bhai ko mari zarorat ha , to me apny bhai sa contact kar k us ki help karu ge, us k ghar ja kar, ofice ja kar, sms par, email par.

care for wife

agar mujhy mari bevi ki care ha, ya mujhy mari bevi sa muhabbat ha to me us k sath time spend karny me boriat nahi mehsos karu ga. me dosri aurto sa apny nafs ko khush nahi karu ga, me apni bv sa har wo lazzat hasil karu ga jo ik mard ko aurat sa chahiey hoti ha. physical ya emotinal. har wo chez jo islam me aik mard sirf apni bv sa hi hasil kary to sawab ha . agar dosri aurat sa hasil kary to gunnah.

and if i am not doing this then i dont care for my wife or i dont love her or i dont want to make her happy.

care for mother

agar insan ko kisi ki care hoti ha to wo apni bhook piyaas time ya kam ki parwa nahi karta.

agar mujhy mari maa ki parwa ha to me apni bhok ko nazar andaz karu ge, ofice time par pohchny ki parwa nahi karu ge, road par trafic ki parwa nahi karu ge, ofice sa late hony ki parwa nahi karu ge. me wo kam karu ge jis ki mari maa ko zaroorat ha.

this is reality and truth. And I love my mother most.

home treatment of Hyperpigmentation

Hyperpigmentation can occur due to many reasons. But treating it successfully would depend completely upon how long you have had the problem. Sometimes, if you have started developing skin pigmentationpatches newly, you will find that treatment is not only simpler, it is also faster. Simple cases of newly developed pigmentation patches can be treated by using aloe vera gel. You can apply the gel to your patches in order to take care of it effectively and rapidly. If you can, try to get a fresh leaf and squeeze the gel out of that. This is relatively better than using it out of a bottle. But that is not to say that the bottle version does not work as effectively or as well. Look for a bottle that states that it contains 50 per cent or more of pure aloe gel. It is advisable to start using aloe soap. This will not make a significant contribution, but it will certainly help to not develop more spots.

 

Another step that has to be taken to arrest the growth of pigmentationpatches is that you must use sunscreen lotion when going outdoors as a rule rather than only while going to the beach. This will also make a considerable difference in that you will be preventing further patches from appearing. There are also some simple fruits and vegetables which you can apply to get rid of dark patches and spots. Cucumber juice is considered to be one such remedial measure. Raw potatoes are also rich in starch and mildly bleaching agents. If you can squeeze out the juice of a raw potato and apply this to your patches, you will see a lightening of the discoloration in as little as a week.

 

It is also important to inculcate a daily routine to cure yourself of the problem. Soak almonds overnight, and peel and grind them the next morning. Apply this to your patches to reduce darkness. A tablespoon of milk powder, honey, lemon juice, and almond oil can be mixed and stored in the refrigerator. Applying this for about 20 minutes will help to even out your skin tone considerably. You can also apply very diluted ammonia to your dark patches. But make it a point that you do not go out in the sun after doing this, otherwise your skin will only darken further. Therefore, the best time to do this is at night, when you know you will not be going out.

 

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Hyperpigmentation is the formation of dark skin patches. It’s very common and can occur for people with all skin types and complexions. Successful hyperpigmentation treatment depends on how long you’ve had the problem. New dark skin patches are often easier and faster to get rid of than ones that have been on your skin for years and years.

In order to find the right hyperpigmentation treatment, you should find out the reason you’re getting dark skin patches. There are a number of different causes of hyperpigmentation. Here are a few:

    • Sun Damage — Dark skin patches can occur due to sun exposure. They’re sometimes called age spots or liver spots. This type of hyperpigmentation is often seen on the face, hands and shoulders. It’s the result of many years of exposure to UV rays.

 

    • Melasma, or Chloasma — These look a lot like the dry skin patches caused by sun damage, but the cause is hormonal changes. Women often get melasma or chloasma during pregnancy, or sometimes while taking birth control pills. If you’re looking for a hyperpigmentation treatment, and your dark skin patches are due to melasma, you might just need to wait until you’re no longer pregnant, or you may have to stop the birth control pills (if you’re taking them). The dark spots are likely to go away on their own.

 

    • Scars — Sometimes, after you’ve had acne, you’re left with scars that look like dark skin patches.

 

  • Freckles — Some dark spots are simply inherited, so there is no hyperpigmentation treatment for this type of skin spot. Consider them beauty marks!

 

There are a few natural hyperpigmentation treatments I’ve heard people use that might be worth trying at home. You could try applying these natural ingredients to your dark skin patches:

  • Aloe vera
  • Cucumber juice
  • Raw potato juice
  • Ground almonds, soaked in water
  • Mix of milk powder, honey, lemon juice and almond oil

There are also some good hyperpigmentation treatments described here. Just be careful not to use any product or ingredient that could damage or dry out your skin.

It’s also really important not to expose your dark skin patches to further sun damage. Be sure to wear a sunscreen daily to prevent more dark spots and to keep the ones you have from getting darker. I can’t encourage this enough — sunscreen is an essential part of your hyperpigmentation treatment!

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Life & Style | Health Eat right for lush hair and glowing skin

When it comes to the blame game for hair and skin problems, climate is a top favourite. Dull hair? It’s the dry, hot winds that are damaging it. Sallow complexion? It’s the heat and humidity. Rarely do people confess they are not eating right, are stressed and are also probably overdoing hair and skin treatments. While the last two problems can be optional vices, what’s almost unarguable is that most people are eating food that’s not meant to nourish skin and hair. Fast food for breakfast? Check. Processed foods for lunch? Check. Fizzy beverages through the day? Check. Too much coffee through the day to stay alert? Check.

“Chemicals in processed foods, trans-fat and chemical compounds in fried foods speed up the process of ageing,” says Yasmine Haddad, senior dietician, Live’ly, a health and nutrition lounge in Dubai. Fast foods are also full of sugar, which are empty in nutrients and full of calories. High-salt diets, also a popular choice with many people, lead to excess sodium accumulation around hair follicles, hindering absorption of essential nutrients needed for healthy hair, says Haddad.

For lush locks and a glowing skin, it is absolutely essential to eat nutritious foods. These include vegetables, fruits, vegetable oils, nuts and protein, “It’s about a healthy lifestyle,” says Haddad. “You have to sleep well, eat well, exercise and avoid stress. Stress is very bad for hair,” she says. Of course, hard water, as in the UAE, also has a bad effect on hair, but if your diet is poor, it can increase hair problems. (Haddad uses a shower filter that removes large amounts of calcium and magnesium in hard water.)

A diet rich in protein is essential for healthy hair as hair is primarily composed of keratin, a type of protein. Salmon, beans, fish, meat and fortified dairy products, cereals and Vitamin D supplements are essential for healthy skin and hair.

For supple and healthy skin, foods rich in Vitamin A and D, such as avocado and sunflower oil help repair body tissue, prevent dryness and postpone ageing.

Vitamin C, which helps maintain levels of collagen, a protein constituent of skin that is essential for healing skin as well as keeping it firm, should also be an important nutrient in your diet.

Exposure to the sun for Vitamin D is essential for bones, cells and tissues, as is folic acid, the deficiency of which leads to a condition called seborrheic dermatitis. It may be also linked to vitiligo (loss of skin pigment). A regular oil massage with olive oil promotes scalp strength.

Introducing potassium-rich foods in your diet, such as parsley, prunes, green leafy vegetables, will help flush out excess sodium and reduce risk of the potassium deficiency and hair loss, she says.

The bottomline however is that you need to make a conscious effort to eat well. “People want the easy way out,” she says. “but there’s no miracle cure; no amount of taking pills will help. You have to change your lifestyle and eat healthy.”

Though, she warns that hair loss can also be a sign of other problems with your body. “There could be hormonal issues or a problem with the thyroid, or malnutrition. A simple blood test to eliminate any medical conditions would be good to get to the root of the problem.”

Should one take vitamin supplements? “These are necessary only if the doctor recommends them because of a medical problem or if you are no able to get nutrients from foods.”

The essential vitamin hit list:

Vitamin A: Helps repair body tissue, prevents dry skin and postpones ageing.

Source: Liver, sweet potatos, carrots, spinach, milk, egg yolk.

Vitamins B-6, B-12: Important for general hair health.

Sources: Bananas, potatoes, spinach, meat, poultry, fish, dairy products.

Vitamin C: Maintains collagen, the protein part of skin that keeps it smooth and firm.

Sources: Citrus fruits and tomatoes.

Vitamin D: Promotes skin-collagen health.

Sources: Sardines, cod liver oil and Omega-3 fatty acids.

Vitamin E: Repairs body tissue, prevents skin dryness and postpones ageing.

Sources:

Thiamine: Also known as B1, for general hair health.

Source: Brown rice, sunflower seeds, various nuts, oatmeal.

Potassium: Good for skin and hair.

Source: Sweet potato, potato, white beans, yogurt (fat-free), orange juice, broccoli, banana.

Selenium: Adds lustre.

Source: All vegetables, fish, red meat, grains, eggs,

Zinc: xxxxxxx

Source: Beans, cheese and salads are rich in zinc, which is vital for skin and hair.

Manganese: Good for skin and hair.

Source: Nuts, seeds, grains, oatmeal, whole wheat bread, fruit and vegetables, Pineapple is rich in manganese,

Copper: Liver is rich in copper as are sesame seeds, chocolate, lobster and calamari, nuts, These are good antioxidants and halts ageing. Good for hair and skin.

Folic acid: This is important for your hair,

Source: Fresh fruits and vegetables, specially citrus fruits and tomatoes, whole grain and fortified grain products, beans, and lentils.

Calcium: For strong hair and a healthy scalp.

Source: Milk, sardines, almonds and yoghurt.

Iron: For a healthy complexion.

Source: Liver, red meats, tuna, salmon, and shrimp, beans, lentils, spinach, tofu, broccoli, chicken and turkey, nuts, egg yolk,dried fruits. Good for both hair and skin, but be careful not to consume too much iron.

Eating for good hair:

Protein is the building block of hair. Without enough protein in your system, you may experience greater hair loss. Calcium found in foods such as yogurt and cottage cheese has proven to help promote hair growth and repair damaged hair follicles.

Olives and olive oil are rich in oleic acid, a monounsaturated fatty acid, which has shown to help the hair grow thicker and stronger.

In addition, fresh vegetables such as cucumber, lemon, lettuce and tomato consist of 70-90 percent water. Water is a natural remedy which supports hair vitamin consumption and a healthy hair growth.

Cheese which is derived from milk is a high source of calcium and protein. However, it’s important to note that it’s preferable to consume it low-fat since in its full-fat form it contains high saturated fat (i.e.: bad fats).

Eat your way to healthy hair

Greek Salad

Preparation Time: 10 mins

Ingredients:

10 black olives

60 gms. light Feta cheese, cut into cubes

200 gms cherry tomato or tomato, cut into cubes

200 gr. cucumber, cut into cubes

500 gr. Romaine lettuce, roughly torn

A few mint leaves

Dressing:

1 tbsp olive oil

1 tbsp white vinegar

2 tbsp lemon juice

Pinch of dry oregano

Pinch of salt

Method: Mix all ingredients in a salad bowl topping with cheese, olives and mint leaves. Add the dressing just before serving.

Nutrition notes

Serving size: 1 salad bowl

Number of servings: 4

Per serving:

Calories = 95 cal

Protein = 5 g

Carbs = 8 g

Fat = 5 g

(These recipes have been created by Live’ly Executive Chef Kassem Taha)

Watermelon sorbet

Watermelon is rich in lycopene, vitamin C and vitamin A which are known to be powerful antioxidants. These help protect and rejuvenate hair follicles and skin tissues. Studies have shown that a regular consumption of watermelon and green tea may reduce the risk of certain cancers such as prostate cancer. Watermelon and lime juice consist of 90 to 95 percent water. Water is a natural remedy which supports hair vitamin consumption and a healthy hair growth.

There is nothing better than a low-calorie and guilt-free watermelon sorbet to add life to your hair.

Preparation Time: 35 min

Ingredients

½ cup plus 4 cups seeded and pureed watermelon

½ cup fruit sugar

2 tbsp lime juice

1 tsp lime zest

Method:

In a small saucepan, bring ½ cup watermelon puree and the fruit sugar to a simmer and remove it from the heat. Add the lime juice and zest and allow the mixture to cool for 20 minutes. Add the 4 cups fresh watermelon puree to the melon-lime mixture, and freeze in an ice cream maker. Place sorbet in a plastic container and allow to freeze for 3-4 hours.

Nutrition notes:

Serving size: 1 scoop

Number of servings: 8

Calories per serving: 68 cal

Protein = 0.3g

Carbs = 17g

Fat = 0g

Date and walnut cake

Preparation time: 55 mins

Serves: 16

Walnuts are high in fat, but they have good fats. The fats in walnuts are rich in polyunsaturated fats such as omega-3 fatty acids and monounsaturated fats which have shown to have many beneficial properties such as preventing cardiovascular disease and helping in boosting the immune system and improving the health of your hair and scalp.

Nuts are rich in vitamins and minerals such as folic acid and iron which make it an ideal choice for people struggling with hair loss. It is better to avoid consuming it roasted or salted, but have it raw and in moderation due to its high calorie content.

Dates are also very rich in vitamins (B complex vitamins) and minerals like potassium and iron. A potassium deficiency, also called hypokalemia, can lead to hair loss. B complex vitamins play various important roles in the body including improved hair growth and thickness.

Enjoy this guilt-free and delicious dessert.

Ingredients:

1 cup of pitted dates (seedless)

1 cup boiling water

1 tsp of soda bicarbonate powder

1/2 cup of oil (sunflower or corn)

3/4 cup of sugar

2 cups cake flour

3 tsp of baking Powder

1/2 cup skimmed or low-fat milk

4 eggs, beaten

1/2 tsp vanilla (powder or extract)

1/2 cup chopped walnuts

3 tbsp flour

Method:

In a casserole, put the dates, add boiling water and soda bicarbonate and boil for 3-4 minutes (until the dates are soft). Set aside to cool to room temperature. (It is okay if the mixture foams and turns dark brown). Beat eggs with vanilla essence, add sugar, oil and dates mixture.

While mixing, alternate by adding the flour and baking powder and milk. Pour the batter in the baking pan (spray the pan with oil first and add flour). Toast chopped walnuts with 3 tbsp of flour in a pan until little brown, and sieve them from the flour. Spread chopped walnuts on top of the cake batter and bake the cake in a 180 degree oven (350F) for 30-40 minutes.

Nutition notes

Calories per serving = 226 cal

Protein = 4 g

Carbs = 31 g

Fat = 10 g

Eating your way to a glowing skin

Japanese chicken salad

Preparation Time: 40 mins

Serves 3

Serving size: 1 bowl

If you are suffering from dry and unhealthy skin, the good news is that the secrets to a healthy and radiant skin are very basic and you do not have to use high-end skin products or layers of make-up to hide unhealthy skin. A well-balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle are the two most important factors influencing the condition of your skin.

In addition, fresh vegetable such as onions, cucumber and peppers consist of 70 to 90 percent water. Water flushes out the toxins from the body and helps rehydrate the skin and reduce risk of dryness and irritation.

Ingredients:

For salad:

110 gms Thai jasmine rice

1 cucumber, diced small

3 spring onions, sliced

1/2 red pepper, diced

85 ms cooked chicken, diced

1/2 avocado, diced

Salt & fresh coarse ground black pepper, to taste

For dressing:

2 tbsp rice wine vinegar

1 tbsp caster sugar

1/2 tsp sunflower oil

Method:

Put the rice in a large pan with plenty of cold water and a pinch of salt. Bring to the boil and simmer for 12-15 min until the rice is just tender. Drain and leave to stand in a sieve for 15 mins, stirring half way through. Transfer to a bowl.

To make the dressing, gently warm the rice wine vinegar and sugar until the sugar dissolves. Add sunflower oil and stir into the rice. Leave until cold.

Stir cucumber into the dressed rice with spring onions, pepper, chicken and avocado and season to taste.

Nutrition notes

Calories per serving = 219 cal

Protein = 11g

Carbs = 32g

Fat = 5.2g

Baby corn and spinach pizza

Number of servings: 4

Preparation time: 20 mins

Baking time: 20 min in 280 degrees oven

Spinach has a high nutritional value and is extremely rich in antioxidants, especially when fresh, steamed, or quickly boiled. It is a rich source of vitamin A (and especially high in Lutein), vitamin C, vitamin K, and Vitamin B9 (folic acid). Vitamin A helps repair body tissue, prevents skin dryness and postpones ageing.

Using whole wheat dough in preparing your pizza will help improve your skin complexion. Brown bread and flour as well as whole wheat germs are rich in B vitamins which have shown to improve circulation and skin color.

Ingredients
Whole wheat pizza dough:

1 cup whole wheat flour

1/2 cup all-purpose flour

1/2 tsp salt

1 packet active dry yeast

2 tsp olive oil

1/2 tsp sugar

1 cup warm water

Pizza sauce:

1 onion, chopped finely

2 garlic cloves, chopped finely

2 tsp olive oil

1 kg fresh tomato, peeled & chopped OR 1-1/2 x 415 g cans crushed tomato

1 tsp dry oregano

2 tbsp fresh basil

1/2 tsp dry thyme

Dash of salt and black pepper

(Optional: Drizzle of Hot Sauce)

Toppings:

2 onions; cut into rounds (lightly sautéed)

1 cups colored and green peppers; cut into strips

1 cup of baby corn, sliced

2 cups baby spinach

1 cup of light mozzarella cheese, grated

1 tbsp pine nuts

Method:

Mix dough ingredients and let it rest for 90 minutes. Cook pizza sauce. Roll dough out thinly to fit a greased pizza base. Top dough with pizza sauce and arrange toppings over it. Sprinkle mozzarella cheese and top with pine nuts. Bake at 280 degrees C for 20 minutes.

Serving size: ¼ slice pizza

Calories per serving = 300 cal

Protein = 11g

Carbs = 48g

Fat = 8 g

Tasty fillet salmon

Serves 2

Preparation time: 15-17 minutes

Salmon is considered an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin D. It is also a very good source of protein, vitamin B3 (niacin) and vitamin B12. Omega-3 fatty acids reduce risk of dryness by helping skin retain its natural moisture. It has the ability to neutralise damaging free radicals and therefore protect the skin from aging and reduce the risk of skin cancer.

Vitamin B3 (niacin) has shown to increase production of ceramides and fatty acids, two key components of skin’s outer protective barrier. A deficiency of niacin leads to pellagra, a condition characterised by diarrhoea, dermatitis, dementia, inflammation of the mouth, amnesia, delirium, and if left untreated, death. Fall in love with salmon and enjoy a radiant skin.

Ingredients

2 salmon fillets, 1-inch thick and 6 ounces (170 grams) each

1/4 cup packed brown sugar

1/4 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce

3 tbsp unsweetened pineapple juice

3 tbsp red wine vinegar

1 tbsp lemon juice

3 garlic cloves, minced

1 tsp ground ginger

1 tsp pepper

1/4 teaspoon hot pepper sauce

Method

In a large resealable plastic bag, combine the first nine ingredients; add salmon. Seal bag and turn it to coat evenly; refrigerate for 15 minutes, turning once. Drain and discard marinade. Using long-handled tongs moisten a paper towel with cooking oil and lightly coat the grill rack. Place salmon skin side down on rack. Grill covered over medium heat or broil 4 inches from the heat for 13-15 minutes or until fish flakes easily with a fork.

Nutrition notes

Serving size: 1 fillet

Calories per serving = 330 cal

Protein = 36 g

Carbs = 32 g

Fat = 6g

* Rope Jumping for burning Belly Fat *

Belly fat is the most common problem that people are facing today. On top of that, losing this fat is not so easy. Patience and hard work is needed to get good results. One of the effective ways that has proven to be successful is skipping. Rope jumping for belly fat not only helps to lose tummy fat, but also to strengthen the body muscles. This kind of exercise can be done by people of all ages. Children do this exercise as a part of their play and adults do this to lose weight.
It is more effective for women as compared to men. It is like a cardio exercise offering you portability and flexibility. Choose a good jumping rope that reaches from the floor to mid chest when it is folded in half. Wear proper shoes with both cushioning at the ball of your foot.
Out of many cardio workouts, rope jumping has proven effective to burn calories and lose belly fat as compared to other exercises. Most of the people due to the changing world are under stress and find it difficult to go for long term exercises. However, rope jump has proved to be the fastest burning exercise to lose weight in less time.
Different Styles of Rope Jumping for Belly Fat
Single-Foot Jump: In this type of rope jumping, you have to jump up and land on one foot instead of your both feet. Do 10 jumps on left foot and then do the same with the right foot. Then slowly increase your jumps every day and then start working up to 100 jumps on every foot. To lessen the impact on your knees, lift your foot so high that it allows the rope to pass underneath.

Lateral Hops: Performing lateral hops is not difficult. You have to lay the rope on the floor in a straight line from handle to handle. Then you can stand at one end and jump back and forth over the rope. Then again go backwards and start the same thing till you get to the beginning point. Do at least 100 revolutions once you pick up the speed. Try repeating the series first at least five times and then have a one minute rest.

Backward Jump: In backward jump, you have to use both the feet and swing the rope along the front of your body and then take a big jump. You need a good coordination, so that you can jump correctly. This will help to improve alternate jumps and make you perfect in the single foot jump as you will swing the rope backwards.

Alternate Foot Jump: In this style, you need to switch back and forth between the feet with every swing of jump rope. First, you have to jump with your right foot on first swing and then with the left one on the other swing.
Benefits of Rope Jumping: This exercise not only helps to lose belly fat, but also has other advantages like:

In just 30 minutes rope jumping workout, you can burn at least 250-500 calories.
You can increase the rate of your heart and eliminate the calories without getting much stress.
This exercise is actually fun as you can work out with changing patterns or styles.
It can be a great warm up and a good weight training exercise
It is more advantageous for women as they have the tendency to lose bone calcium after crossing 30 years of age. Weight bearing exercise like rope jumping can help to preserve bone mass and build strong bones.
It is known for its more comprehensive type of body weight exercise

Some workouts if done in a correct manner help to burn calories every minute like rope jumping. It is a high intensity workout that includes interval training for 15 minutes and burning more calories compared to any other cardio exercises like treadmill or fast walk or even jogging. Usually, rope jumping is done by athletes to increase their strength.
Most health experts suggest obese people to use rope jumping for belly fat as it can burn the calories quicker and faster. It is a convenient tool that every individual should use to maintain his/her health. You can use this rope jumping in many styles and can carry it wherever you want.

By sumerasblog Posted in Life

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humsafar a comic review

If you’re a human being and you know a Pakistani woman, then you’ve probably heard about Humsafar.

I could write pages on how this show is planting the seed of fasaad (trouble) in perfectly normal and happy households and how it’s basically just a guide on how to break up pretty normal marriages. The fact that most women like it says a lot. I’ll end the casual sexism now and just give you the review. Enjoy it!

A couple of things to remember: this review is supposed to be funny. If you do not find it funny there is a little ‘x”on the right side of your webpage – just click on it!. I’ve seen only 15 minutes of this show and made the rest of the comic from the word on the street. If there are any Urdu phrases you don’t understand, please leave a comment.

Also Khirad is kind of hot. I approve.

Lastly, ignore all grammar and spelling mistakes and click on the image if you have trouble reading the text.


By sumerasblog Posted in Life

What keeps you awake at night?

“Am I honoring my purpose?”

“Am I in control of my life?”

“Is my career going in the right direction?”

“Do I have enough cash in the bank?”

“Am I doing enough for the people around me?”

Humsafar

Humsafar (Urduہم سَفر) is a Pakistani drama directed by Sarmad Sultan Khoosat, based on the novel (Humsafar) of the same name written by Farhat Ishtiaq. The story revolves around the trials and tribulations of a married couple, Ashar Hussain (Fawad Afzal Khan) and Khirad Ihsan (Mahira Khan), and the jealous forces that work to break them apart. The story of Humsafar (Novel) was laid out in retrospective manner and was mainly told in flashbacks. However the drama’s narrative is mostly linear. The drama airs on Hum TV and has gained a cult following globally and is critically acclaimed.[1]

 

Episodes 1-5

The drama’s first episode begins with a glimpse into the lives of the three main characters. Khirad Ihsan (Mahira Khan) lives in Hyderabad, Pakistan with her mother, Maimona Ihsan, a school teacher. They belong to a lower-middle class family. Maimona’s wealthy nephew, Ashar Hussain (Fawad Afzal Khan), is also introduced alongside his best friend (and maternal cousin), Sara Ajmal (Naveen Waqar). Unknown to Ashar, Sara is deeply in love with him. Both Ashar and Sara’s mothers, Farida (Atiqa Odho) and Zareena (Hina Khawaja Bayat), assume that Ashar will eventually propose to Sara since they have always been so close.

It is soon revealed that Maimona Ihsan is diagnosed with cancer and she requests her brother, Baseerat Hussain (Behroze Sabzwari), Ashar’s rich father, to help her in this dire time of need. Out of guilt for neglecting his sister’s welfare for so long, Baseerat decides promptly to bring Maimona and Khirad to his Karachi mansion and provide first class treatment for her cancer. However, the doctors state that there is no hope of saving Maimona’s life as her cancer has progressed to an advanced stage. Hearing this, Maimona becomes worried over what will happen to Khirad after she is gone, and she requests Baseerat to find a decent proposal for Khirad. Ridden with guilt, Baseerat decides to get Khirad married to Ashar.

Baseerat later conveys his desire to Ashar, his son is taken much aback as he has no plans of getting married to anyone at that moment, let alone a girl who seems like the exact opposite of him. After Ashar shares this news with Sara, she becomes very angry and heartbroken, revealing to Ashar that no one has any right over him since she has loved him all her life. Ashar strictly tells Sara that he does not share the feelings that Sara harbours for him; in his eyes, their relationship has always been limited to friendship. Sara promises Ashar that she will not let him ruin his life by marrying Khirad and she will not be rejected in favour of the “veiled and backwards” Khirad since she is better in every aspect (education, background etc.). However, Baseerat breaks down in front of his son, begging him to marry Khirad, as he believes that no one else could take better care of her.

Eventually, Ashar agrees to marry Khirad under his dad’s immense emotional pressure. Farida, who is extremely possessive about her son, feels neglected during the whole process and lashes out at Baseerat, begging him to think of his son’s welfare and reconsider the decision since Khirad and Ashar are such a mismatch. Baseerat threatens his wife with a divorce if she tries to come between Ashar and Khirad’s marriage. Meanwhile, Khirad is even more shocked than Ashar to hear about her proposed marriage to Ashar. Khirad decides to talk to Ashar but overhears Ashar conversation with a friend about her being backwards. Khirad who is revealed to be very egoistic is deeply hurt. Being her dying mother’s wish, Khirad has no choice but to agree to the wedding . Sara attempts suicide but is rescued in time. Ashar and Khirad are married in a rush (and with a simple Nikaah) due to Maimona’s failing health. She dies soon after, leaving Khirad very depressed and lonely. Ashar and Khirad begin their marriage on a very somber note, where both of them feel that they have been included into each others lives without consent and are being enforced on each other. None of them are happy about the union, however Ashar promises Khirad that he will try his best to make her feel comfortable and this marriage work even though he knows that it will take them a long period of time to come to an understanding. Khirad is deeply hurt by the fact that she has been forced into Ashar’s life and feels that her self-respect has been lost.

[]Episodes 6-10

Later on, however, they both begin falling in love with each other, and Ashar believes it is her innocence, simplicity, and purity of heart that attracts him to her, saying that she’s unlike any other girl he’s ever come across. Even as Sara pretends to befriend Khirad and humiliates her in front of her friends, Ashar rebukes Sara for her cruelty and tells Khirad that she is the most perfect, beautiful girl he could have ever asked for. He tells her that people normally like each other, love each other, and then marry. But with them, it was the opposite. He tells her he loves her, and she loves him too, and that he thanks God every day that he agreed to the wedding.

Soon, Baseerat becomes very sick, and while he’s in the hospital, he warns his son against hurting Khirad, saying that she’s very innocent by nature and doesn’t know the realities of this world or the people in it. He asks him to treat her with constant love and kindess and to always forgive her for anything she might ever do. Ashar, already in love with his new wife, agrees. Baseerat later dies in his sleep.

While Sara pretends to befriend Khirad, she falsely tells Khirad that Ashar makes fun of housewives by referring to them as “desperate housewives” in order to make her feel more embarrassed. Already well-educated with a BSC in physics and mathematics, Khirad decides to enroll in graduate studies to further her math skills in order to impress Ashar and reach more to his standards. There, she meets Khizar, Sara’s paternal cousin who has strong feelings towards Sara. Still, Sara expresses no feelings for Khizar and is still not over Ashar. When Khizar starts to come to Ashar and Khirad’s house, where he praises Khirad at how smart and beautiful she is, Ashar starts to get irritated and slightly jealous. Unbeknownst to Ashar, Khirad is pregnant and can’t wait to tell him this great news.

[]Episodes 11-20

Meanwhile, Farida, Zareena, and Sara come up with a plan to separate Khirad and her husband. Farida plans on paying large sums of money to Khizar for him to be able to study abroad as well as have him marry Sara if he can convince Ashar that he and Khirad are secretly engaged in an extramarital affair. Sara lies to Khizar by telling him that she’ll marry him when he returns from his abroad studying. The scheme goes into action (before Khirad could tell Ashar she was pregnant), and Ashar sees what falsely appears to be Khirad and Khizar alone in his apartment. He storms off angry. When Khirad later asks Farida why she did this, she responds that she would never allow a public school teacher’s daughter to be her daughter-in-law. She goes on to say that she raised Ashar in such a perfect way with his education and work and that she won’t allow him to waste it all on a lower-class woman. Khirad tries to protest and calls Khizar, who falsely keeps insisting that she is in an affair with him. However, Farida backs Khizar’s lies and kicks Khirad out of the house before Ashar has a chance to speak with her. Before leaving, she quickly manages to write a note for Ashar and leaves it with a servant. Although Ashar returns expecting to be able to speak with Khirad to hear her explanation, his mother lies and says that she and Khizar have already eloped together.

Heartbroken and alone, Khirad takes refuge at the house of her mother’s old friend, Batul Khala, in Hyderabad, Pakistan. Throughout her time there, she calls Ashar at his cell phone and his office, but he promptly hangs up whenever he finds out it is Khirad calling. Believing his mother’s story that Khirad eloped with Khizar, he says he no longer knows anyone named Khirad. After a few months, Khirad goes into labor and calls Ashar one last time. Again he hangs up, and she prematurely gives birth to a baby girl whom she names Hareem. While in the small clinic with her newborn baby, Khirad vows that even on the Day of Judgment in front of Allah, she won’t forgive Ashar for what he did. Her desperate attempts to reach out to Ashar have now turned to heartfelt anger and possibly hatred.

Four years pass and Khirad learns that her daughter is a patient of congenital heart disease, and needs immediate open heart surgery. Since she knows she will not be able to afford Hareem’s treatment, Khirad hesitantly pays a visit to her husband and tells him about the current situation. She comes back a changed woman, one with more power and anger than she had before. At first, he doesn’t react and refuses to help, but later, as he realizes his sudden love for the daughter he had never met, decides to treat Hareem. Ashar brings his wife and four-year-old child to his house, but does not reveal this to Sara, Farida, or Zareena. He bonds with Khirad and Hareem over time, though Khirad still thinks he is a weak and horrible husband as he did not believe/listen to her four years earlier. In addition, she states that she’s only there for her daughter’s treatment and no longer cares about being with Ashar, and it is because of this that she hasn’t told him the realities of what his mother did to her four years earlier.

When Sara finds out that her “enemy” has returned, she is outraged, and informs Farida. Farida quickly returns to Pakistan from a conference in the United States and explains to Khirad that she can easily throw her and her daughter back on the streets again. No longer afraid of her mother-in-law, Khirad tells her to do as she pleases, as she is only there for her daughter’s care and no longer cares for the Hussain family. She says, “I was afraid of you back when I actually wanted to be with your son…” As Hareem demands to see old pictures from their wedding, Ashar brings out an old box, which contains the note Khirad left for Ashar four years earlier as she was being thrown out of the house. He doesn’t see it right away, however.

Khizar returns from his studies abroad and demands Farida fulfill her promise of marrying him to Sara. Sara, angered by his return, refuses, but Farida insists she go through with it since Khizar threatens to tell Ashar the truth of what happened four years ago.

Meanwhile, Hareem’s surgery takes place and is successful. Seeing how much he loves his daughter, Khirad decides to leave Hareem with Ashar as he can provide for her better. Ashar, on the other hand, has (again) developed feelings for his wife and decides to forgive her for her former affair (he still doesn’t know that it was a well-played lie). So far, Khirad tells Ashar that she is leaving and leaving Hareem with him, but Ashar says that he has forgiven her (although, actually, he loves her), and he asks her to stay.

[]Episodes 21-onwards

Khizar returns to Pakistan and visits Farida. He demands her to give an answer to his marriage request for Sara within two days or else he’ll “destroy” her with everything he knows. Meanwhile, Ashar finds Khizar leaving his home, and when he confronts his mother as to why he was there, Farida responds by saying, “He wants for you and Khirad to get a divorce…” Ashar is seen visibly shaking with anger and sadness at this false revelation.

Sara continues to spiral down with her depression, saying that she can never get over Ashar due to her strong love and that she can never forget Khirad due to her strong hatred for her.

Ashar takes Khirad from the hospital (where Hareem is still recovering) to the seaside of Karachi and pours out his feelings to her. Still unaware of her innocence, he asks how she can walk around without feeling any kind of shame for what she did. He then says that he loves her just as he did four years ago and that he can’t remove her from his heart. He begs her to stay, if not for him then for Hareem. Khirad, seemingly untouched by his emotional speech, rejects his offer and, when pressed, will not tell him her reasoning. She says she only cares about Hareem’s health and happiness now and wants nothing else from this world, not even Ashar. She tells him she’s leaving Hareem with him so she can have a better life.

In a promo for the next episode, it shows Ashar finding a note Khirad left for him, implying that she’s already left for Hyderabad, leaving Hareem at Ashar’s home for good. Later on, he finds the note Khirad left nearly four years ago when she was being thrown out of the house by her mother-in-law. He is seen confronting Khizar for his lie and going into an emotional breakdown, realizing for the first time how innocent Khirad was in everything and how he refused to believe her for so long.

Changes from the novel

-In the novel, Sarah is a very limited character and is never close to Ashar and nor is his best friend or works with him. Sara’s role in the drama was expanded to a main character. Hareem was the portagonist; however in the drama she had a minor role and does not appears until episode 15.

-In the novel, Ashar and Khirad have a proper wedding ceremony and a grand reception after Maimoona’s mourning period has passed. In the drama, Ashar and Khirad never have a proper wedding, instead they have a simple nikkah ceremony and soon afterwards Maimoona dies. There is no mention of a wedding nor a reception (Walima). However, in episode 19 when Hareem requests to see the wedding pictures it is never explained where the pictures of the wedding came from if the two events never occurred or weren’t mentioned.

-Khirad and Maimoona reside in Nawabshah in the novel however; the drama’s location is changed to Hyderabad.

-Khizar in the novel is never in love with sara but to another girl, named Mehreen and never comes back from America.

-In the drama it is never explained how or where Hareem has seen Ashars picture or why she suddenly becomes so attached to her father even though she has never met him before. In the novel, it was explained by the heart necklace that Khirad is wearing when she is kicked out of the house which contains a picture of ashar (a birthday gift Ashar bestows on Khirad). When Khirad takes the necklace out after four years before her move to Karachi, Hareem becomes interested in the picture and Khirad explains to Hareem that it is her father who loves her a lot but lives in a different city and will bring her loads of toys and dolls. Khirad does not want to instigate a bad image of Ashar in Hareems mind at such an early age. She also gives the necklace to Hareem to keep, so can learn what her father’s image looks like.

-Ashar does not bring Hareem and Khirad back to his house in Karachi (like it is shown in the drama) but rents a separate apartment for them in the novel.

-The Drama’s end was changed significantly from the novel, as in the novel the only confrontation that occurs is between Ashar and Farida before it’s concluded.

 

Soundtrack

The theme song Woh Humsafar Tha was composed by Waqar Ali and sung by Qurratulain Baloch, and was written by Naseer Turabi. The lines of the song are frequently used during the course of the show.

In certain parts of the show, a track from Dexter, “Blood Theme” composed by Daniel Licht is played. However, there’s no mention of credits in this regard.

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