Become a Lie Detector

September 7, 2009 at 8:08 am (Get Relex, Project Management, friendship, hate, job, relatioship, silence, thought, tips and tricks, training)

How to Detect Lies
Become a Lie Detector

Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says “I love it!” when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn’t do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid “lying” by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you… they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Related Books:

Never be Lied to Again

Body Language
Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues must be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie.

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Kaminey

August 15, 2009 at 6:17 pm (Get Relex, friendship)

kya kare zindagi,isko hum jo miley,
iski jaan khaa gaye,raat din ke giley,
meri aarzoo…kameenee,mere khwab bhi…kaminey
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi…Kaminey
kya kare zindagi,isko hum jo miley,
iski jaan khaa gaye,raat din ke giley…

kabhi zindagi se maanga,pinjre mein chand la do,
kabhi lalten de ke,kaha aasma pe taango
jeene ke sab kareene,the hamesha se,
kaminey kaminey kaminey kaminey
meri dastaan…,kaminey,mere raaste kaminey,
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi,kaminey

jiska bhi chehra chila,andar se aur nikla,
masoom sa kabootar,naacha toh mor nikla…
kabhi hum kaminey nikle,kabhi doosre kaminey,
kaminey kaminey kaminey kaminey
meri dosti kameenee,mere yaar bhi… kaminey,
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi… kaminey

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selfish people

July 1, 2009 at 8:30 pm (friendship)

Saying that I dont want anything return would be a lie, but a bit of understanding would be great! I have come to the realization that some person in my life are selfish which makes them sucky people. I have no expectations for these people and accept them for who they are-selfish.

One person take everything from his best friend, and then kill his best friend. just to full fill his requirements. if a person saying you his best friends, and sending you to shutter deaf. the person is lying.

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زندگی

June 18, 2009 at 9:37 pm (Myself & I, Private, Public, family, friendship, future, past, present, relatioship, silence, thought)

زندگی آتی ہے اور چلی جاتی ہے۔ خوشی اور غم کا بھی یہی حال ہے۔ اپنی زندگی کی حقیقت کو جانچیں۔ اپنی زندگی میں خوشی، مسرتوں، جیت، ہار اور غم کے لمحات کو یاد کریں۔ کیا وہ وقت
مستقل تھا؟ وقت چاہے کیسا بھی ہو، آتا ہے اور چلا جاتا ہے۔

زندگیme khushiyan arzi hoti han, aur زندگی me gham mustaqil hota ha.

زندگی me Gham na chahty huay bhi milty han, aur khushi dhondhny par bhi nahi milti.

زندگی me kuch log har kar bhi jeet jaty han, aur kuch jeet kar b haar jaty han. زندگی ki ye jeet jany k bad wo log jeety jee mar jaty han.

زندگی me gham bar bar darwazy par dastak dyta ha, aur us waqt tak dyta rehta ha jab tak darwazza khul na jaye. aur زندگی me khushi sirf aik bar dastak dyti ha. agar zara b dyr ho jaye darwaza kholny me, to khafa ho kar chali jati ha. aur phir kabi nahi ati.

زندگی compromise, umeed, aur qaid ha. compromise is liye k, dosro ko khush rakhny k liye bohot kuch apna khona parta ha, aur umeed is liye k, jab har taraf andhera ho, to ik umeed hoti ha, k kal phir subah honi ha, suraj ne nikalna ha. haN ye ha k hamari saansen hamara sath dyn, any waly din tak k liye. aur qaid is liye k humari زندگی na to hamari marzi se shuru hue ha, na hamari marzi sa khatam ho ge. hum gee rahy hen aur geety ja rahyu han. زندگی enjoyment nahi han. زندگی samjhny k liye ha.
bohot kuch samjhny k liye. زندگی ka asal maqsad.

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Why mother is so special:

May 1, 2009 at 9:01 am (family, friendship, present, relatioship)

Why mother is so special:


When I came home in the rain,

Brother asked why you didn’t take an umbrella.
Sister advised why you didn’t wait till rain stopped.
Father angrily warned, only after getting cold, you will realize.

But Mother, while drying my hair, said, stupid rain!
Couldn’t it wait,
Till my child came home?

That’s MOOOOOOOOM

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forgiving and forgetting.

April 17, 2009 at 5:14 pm (Habit, Myself & I, Private, Public, family, friendship, hate, history, love, past, present, relatioship, silence, tips and tricks)

I would like to hear your opinion on forgiving and forgetting. When people hurt you: do you forgive and forget? Or do you just forgive but don’t forget?

People who tend to be seen as good – usually forgive and forget. But I don’t think that this is a question of being good or evil – I think the point is about being just. So maybe the tendency to forgive and forget those that have hurt us is not necessarily a good thing. Because if we don’t do anything to people that hurt us – they will probably continue on hurting others.

This is the way I see it and I would like to hear you about this subject and also your own experiences.

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Main

February 9, 2009 at 9:02 am (Get Relex, ISLAM, Myself & I, Private, family, friendship, future, history, love, past, present, relatioship)

main

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My Autumn Tree

February 7, 2009 at 9:53 am (Myself & I, Private, family, friendship, future, hate, history, love, present)

My Autumn Tree

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Muhabbat ki Haqeeqat – I

January 31, 2009 at 5:09 pm (Get Relex, Habit, ISLAM, My poetry, Myself & I, Private, Public, Religion, family, friendship, future, hate, history, love, past, present, relatioship, silence, thought)

Muhabbat karnay waly ko apny mehbob se koi gharz, koi talab nahi hoti. wo to apnay mehboob se badlay me kuch b nahi mangta. muhabbad bhi nahi, iltfat ki aik nazar bhi nahi. wo to bss muhabbat kiye jata ha , kiu k muhabbad aik khud kar jazba ha, jo dil me khud ba khud ubharta ha. to muhabbat karny wala to muhabat karny par majbor ho jata ha. wo koi shart aed nahi karta. ye muhabat nahi k mehbob jawab me muhabat na dy to usay chor kar kisi aur se muhabat kar lo. YE to PHIR karobar HUA.

Upper wala khayal ki tarah kisi ko muhabbat bhi somp dyta ha.

muhabbad pak aur buland jazba ha. aur ye mehdood bhi nahi. ma bayty se muhabat karti ha, Banda mabood se muhabat karta ha. muhabat kisi ko kisi seb ho sakti ha. KISI MARD ko KISI AURAT se ho sakti ha. LAKIN Muhabbad ki Bunyad JISM KABHI NAHI hota.  Is ki buniyad achy ausaaf bhi nahi hoty. Mehboob ka zahir bhi nahi hota, kiu k muhabbad lafani jazba ha. Admi borha ho jaiye to JISM dhal jata ha. Muhabbat kabhi khatam nahi hoti, chahy koi burae b samnay a jaiye. chahy Jism dhal jaiye, chahy Insan mar jaiye.

Insaan dosray insaan se sirf muhabat hi kar sakta ha, lakin insaan ko ALLAH se muhabbat karni chahiye kisi fani shye se nahi, KABhi ISHQ nahi. kiu k isht to Sirf Aik MABOOD ALLAH se hi ho sakta ha. Aur jis ko ho jiaye wo khushnaseeb ha.

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Manzile Apni Jagah Hai Raaste Apni Jagah

January 28, 2009 at 1:00 pm (Get Relex, Songs, friendship, future, hate, history, past, poetry)

Manzilo Pe Aa Ke Lootate Hai Dilon Ke Caaravaan
Kashtiya Saahil Pe Aksar Doobati Hai Pyaar Ki

Manzile Apni Jagah Hai Raaste Apni Jagah
Jab Kadam Hi Saath Naa De To Musaafir Kyaa Kare
Yoon To Hai Humdard Bhi Aur Humsafar Bhi Hai Meraa
Badh Ke Koyi Haath Naa De Dil Bhalaa phir Kyaa Kare
Manzile Apni Jagah Hai Raaste Apni Jagah

Doobne Waale Ko Tinke Kaa Sahaaraa Hi Bahot
Dil Bahal Jaaye Fakat Itnaa Ishaaraa Hi Bahot
Itne Par Bhi Aasmaan Waalaa Giraa De Bijaliyaan
Koi Batlaa De Zaraa Yeh Doobtaa phir Kyaa Kare
Manzile Apni Jagah Hai Raaste Apni Jagah

Pyaar Karnaa Jurm Hai To Jurm Hum Se Ho Gayaa
Kaabil-E-Maafi Huaa Karte Nahin Aise Gunaah
Sangdil Hai Yeh Jahaan Aur Sangdil Meraa Sanam
Kyaa Kare Josh-E-Junoon Aur Hauslaa phir Kyaa Kare
Manzile Apni Jagah Hai Raaste Apni Jagah
Jab Kadam Hi Saath Naa De To Musaafir Kyaa Kare
Yoon To Hai Humdard Bhi Aur Humsafar Bhi Hai Meraa
Badh Ke Koyi Haath Naa De Dil Bhalaa phir Kyaa Kare

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